I have a question. Bear with me because there is some backstory. I’m at the tail end of my “amicable” divorce after being married for 25 years. Not my choice…his.
I have not gone out a lot because even though I live in a large beach town in Virginia, I end up seeing him almost every time I go out whether that’s in the car or at the store, etc. Last weekend was the first time I went out with a friend to a big festival in a town 40 minutes away. My husband and I used to go to this festival together every year, so I figured he would be there but in a crowd of several hundred people I didn’t think we would run into one another. He parked in the same location that I did. He went to the same restaurant that my friend and I went to beforehand, and he kept coming by to say hello. Bring us free, drinks, etc. While this was nice, it’s also very very confusing. Because he was the one that decided he didn’t want to be married anymore. And now next week there’s a birthday dinner for a mutual friend that I’m going to and I just found out he is also attending.
I don’t know if this is his attempt to control the narrative of how people view him, him not wanting people to be mad at him, or if he’s trying to see me. It’s all very confusing, especially five months into our six month separation. Yes I’m in therapy 😊
I am looking at moving to a totally new state to start over because unfortunately our shared friendships have mostly decided to be friends with him instead of me. He’s more fun at this point. And nobody likes hanging out with me when I’m depressed…I get it.
So I feel like a change may be in order.
How do you navigate living in the same town as your ex and continually running into them wherever you go? Do I just hunker down for a while? I feel like that’s what I’ve been doing for months and I need human interaction so I’m trying to go out again, but man, this shit is hard.
Emmaaaa! Today was a long day and this week has kicked my ass but hearing the shout-out in this EP made my freaking day. I listened while cooking dinner and hearing "What's the best that could happen" made me smile so big - a smile I really needed today. Grateful for this community you built and the ideas and support we give each other. 💜 (Plus the weed delivery story 😂😂😂😂)
Hey Sparklers ✨
I have a question. Bear with me because there is some backstory. I’m at the tail end of my “amicable” divorce after being married for 25 years. Not my choice…his.
I have not gone out a lot because even though I live in a large beach town in Virginia, I end up seeing him almost every time I go out whether that’s in the car or at the store, etc. Last weekend was the first time I went out with a friend to a big festival in a town 40 minutes away. My husband and I used to go to this festival together every year, so I figured he would be there but in a crowd of several hundred people I didn’t think we would run into one another. He parked in the same location that I did. He went to the same restaurant that my friend and I went to beforehand, and he kept coming by to say hello. Bring us free, drinks, etc. While this was nice, it’s also very very confusing. Because he was the one that decided he didn’t want to be married anymore. And now next week there’s a birthday dinner for a mutual friend that I’m going to and I just found out he is also attending.
I don’t know if this is his attempt to control the narrative of how people view him, him not wanting people to be mad at him, or if he’s trying to see me. It’s all very confusing, especially five months into our six month separation. Yes I’m in therapy 😊
I am looking at moving to a totally new state to start over because unfortunately our shared friendships have mostly decided to be friends with him instead of me. He’s more fun at this point. And nobody likes hanging out with me when I’m depressed…I get it.
So I feel like a change may be in order.
How do you navigate living in the same town as your ex and continually running into them wherever you go? Do I just hunker down for a while? I feel like that’s what I’ve been doing for months and I need human interaction so I’m trying to go out again, but man, this shit is hard.
Thanks for your help 🙏🏻💙
Emmaaaa! Today was a long day and this week has kicked my ass but hearing the shout-out in this EP made my freaking day. I listened while cooking dinner and hearing "What's the best that could happen" made me smile so big - a smile I really needed today. Grateful for this community you built and the ideas and support we give each other. 💜 (Plus the weed delivery story 😂😂😂😂)